be the hurt one or be the hurt people one?

doesn't want to be the one been hurt, not necessarily is to be the one who hurt people.. it can work differently by purely loving yourself.. both are selfish but one can be more ethical than others.

why am i saying this because i have a friend who had been hurt badly for few times in relationships.. the lessons that she had learned from all this relationship is "i don't want to be hurt anymore, so let me be the one who hurt people, then people will not have the chance to hurt me.."

for me this is kind of cruel.. i really tak boleh balance from this statement.. how can you choose to hurt people just because you don't want to be hurt? its also really unfair to others who care for you.. do you really feel good by hurting them? making people experience the same pain as you will make you feel good?

i don't understand ah.....

its just a dream

dreams that we made while sleeping will never come true.. only wishes and hopes may have the chances to be true.. dreams work the other way round, they will never be true..

if you dreamt that you won a price in lottery, you will never get one in anytime soon..

if you dreamt of your love one confess his love to you, he will never do..

if you dreamt of the one you love is waiting for your calls, he will never be..

everything is just a dream that will not be true..

dreams are just purely a movie while sleeping..

its just purely incidents that you have been hoping for while you are awake..

its just purely you missing someone too much and end up dreaming of him..

how good if i can dig you out of my mind.. or at least let me dream of you when i do not have feeling towards you.. because all i have for now is only dreams; dreams that work oppositely in reality..